I remember the day the movers were at our house here and packing. They are kind of fun to watch - how they can wrap a coffee cup in 1.3 seconds flat and wrap it to where it looks to me like it actually will NOT break during the move. That's not something I have the patience for. One winter, after we were ready to put away the new ceramic nativity scene I bought at the Carenet auction at Clearwater Baptist, I took extreme care to wrap about ..... three pieces really nice and then my mind shifted to other things I should do and I wrapped the next several pieces "not so carefully", followed by the remaining pieces which I just dropped into the empty spaces of the tote. All this was just before I squashed the lid onto the tote and slid it towards the front door. That's me in a nutshell though. I'm 95% great ideas and 5% execution. I'm pretty sure that's why God paired me with a man who (to his credit) is 5% thinker and 95% action oriented. Together, we should bring great balance to our children. That is, if we don't traumatize them by our "compromising".
Since I was old enough to understand the word 'compromise' I have scowled at the word. It is defined online as "a middle state between conflicting opinions or actions reached by mutual concession or modification" or "settle a dispute by mutual concession." We teach this word to our children and teach them that compromise is good, that it an important part of Christian interaction, and we relate it to "sharing with others". But I feel like that it is not the case at all. To me, compromising is the culmination of all parties getting shorted by their group decision. During compromise, both parties give up something. How is that a good thing to say, "if you give up something then I will give up something"? I think the word is used by people who make excuses about the fact that they will not budge and just do something FOR someone else. I don't want to teach my kids to compromise. I want my kids to learn that Christ-like love for people that gives all they have for people, and then some, without asking for something back in the deal.
Don't get me wrong now! I'm not a 100% selfless giver, although I would love to snap my fingers and become one. In my entire life I have only met one woman who is, and for the life of me I don't know how she does it. She is indiscriminate in how she offers up all she has and never wants anything back, even from people she doesn't know well. She is a military wife and that has a little to do with it but the reason she can do that is because of the Living Waters inside of her soul that pour out at all times. And as you can imagine, I never hear her speak of compromising, but she talks a LOT about selfless giving. She not only talks about it but she does it every single day, showing us that it can be done by someone outside of Christ Himself.
So don't teach your kids to compromise. In fact, teach them that it is one of those sneaky little concepts that the father of lies has given us to distract us from our mission here. It ranks right up there with words like "white lies" (a lie is a lie). Jesus said, in John 15:12, “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you." Comment below if you know of a Bible verse where Jesus compromised with someone - I'd love to read it! And don't quote this one back to me, Romans 10:9, "If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead then you will be saved. That is NOT a compromise to/with us. That is straight up instruction. Jesus doesn't compromise. God doesn't compromise. The Holy Spirit doesn't compromise. Another dictionary meaning is "to weaken or lessen". STOP COMPROMISING PEOPLE! Maybe when we "compromise" we actually compromise our witness by asking for something in return when we had the opportunity to JUST GIVE. I don't apologize anymore for not liking the word. Somebody make me a t-shirt that says that! :)